Relationships

Have you ever felt like everything was going good in a relationship  and you were finally on the right path. You thought the person you was with, was with you but to your surprise things were not as they seemed. I know that feeling, it has happened to me so much that once I get that feeling I know something is wrong. I can remember one time in middle school I wanted to talk to this girl who I thought was so pretty but I never had the courage to, until one day we were talking and I told her " I going to be honest with you, I think you're pretty and I like you." Thinking to myself I hope she likes me too. Lol Boy was I wrong she shot me down, brought me back to the friend zone and told me that she seen me more as a brother. Taking my heartache like a man I sucked it up and put it behind me. Later on when we got into high school we reconnected through some mutual friends and became friends again. I didn't like her as much as I did in middle school and to be honest I was focused on a lot of other girls I was trying to get with. So when one of my homeboy started talking to her I didn't even take notice. Then one day he and my other homeboy came to me and asked what I thought about her.  I told them I thought she was cute and nothing else. Then as time went on and he was getting no where with her, he began to get frustrated and she began to become annoyed. So my other homeboy said I had a better chance at getting with her than he did.  He said he didn't care he was on to better things and if I wanted to talk to her I could. In my head I thought she would never go for me but you never know until you try. So I started talking to her but after a week she was in a relationship with someone else but I kept at it anyways hoping one day he would slip up. The day came and they broke up, not wanting to rush things I waited a couple days before telling her how I felt about her. The day I told her, the night before they got back together, talk about bad timing. But, I knew there was light at the end of the tunnel because she told me that if she knew the day before how I felt she would not have gotten back with him. So I kept on trying, it was in all from when I first started talking to her about a month when one day I was walking her home and while we were in deep conversation when I peered into her eyes and we leaned and began to make out . After a while she told me that every time she is with me time stops and all her cares and troubles are gone. From that moment on it wasn't long before her and her boyfriend broke up and we began to go steady. I felt like everything was going good. Until three months into the relationship the same homeboy who said he thought I had a better chance with her came and told some news. He told me while he and his girlfriend who is her best friend was "chilling" she came to bring her best friend some food. While he was in his room he heard a deep voice at the door. So when his girlfriend came back he asked her who was at the door with my girlfriend and she responded my girlfriend ex. He then asked do they still talk she said yea and he said no like talk talk. She paused and then answered yes. After hearing this I didn't want to believe it but what reason did he have to lie. However I still did my own research. The same day it happen around the same time she had text me she was way down south and was no where near home. I took it upon myself to ask her ex if he was still talking to her and he told me yes. After that I approached her about the situation purposely not asking when it happened. Her explanation was she saw him and his little brother at Wal-Mart when she went to go buy food for her best friend and she gave them a ride home plus her sister was in the car. Then I asked her around what time did it happen. When she said the time and I noticed that it was around the same time she had sent me the text she was down south I knew it was over. I left the conversation as is never attacking her or accusing her of cheating. A couple days later I told her I think we should just be friends. I felt like she already knew why because she didn't argue she just accepted it but asked that we remain best friends. I really thought that things were good in our relationship but I was terribly wrong. I never knew how she felt about the break up, if she even cared or why she did what she did. I moved on and have been dating my wife to be in what's about to be 4 years and I'm loving every bit of it. I just hope that there is no surprise behind this relationship.